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Dotting My Teas By: Marlene Oxender<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first time I heard a friend speak about living with intention, I had to ask her what she meant. She explained that she can recognize \u201cintention\u201d in others \u2013 at least in the moment she\u2019s with them.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to her, something as simple as smiling, holding a door, or offering a shopping cart are gestures that require a little thought and are ways of being intentional.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

She intentionally stands up straight, watches her thoughts, and decides to be joyful.      <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we\u2019re children, we\u2019re naturally full of joy. We don\u2019t have to think about standing up straight or watching our thoughts. We\u2019re curious.  Heading out the door is a fun thing to do. Holding the door open for the kid behind us wasn\u2019t something we thought of. The sound of a screen door slamming was simply a good thing. It was summertime. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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My family was recently gathered in our living room for an afternoon of doing nothing together. The adults were there to relax and talk. Maybe look at some books. A quick nap could happen. But the grandsons were there to have fun. Some indoor gymnastics and a little bit of wrestling was going on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve allowed my young grandchildren to disassemble the couch cushions and make forts. Because our couch is a sectional with sixteen removable cushions and eight large pillows, they will always remember the forts they\u2019d made at their grandparents\u2019 home. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our afternoon catch-up time, Deano was busy burning off some energy. We had to ask him to please listen. I got his attention after telling him the letters in the word \u201clisten\u201d could be rearranged to spell another word. He worked on the riddle and finally came up with \u201csilent.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Silence. Certainly it helps everyone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My grandchildren know they sometimes say funny things, and I am always jotting down their words so I won\u2019t forget them.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it came time for my grandsons to say goodbye that day, they hugged me as grandchildren do. I told Deano to be good. He told me to be good. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As he was hopping into the car, he looked back at me. He had that grandson look. His eyes were smiling. I didn\u2019t know he had one more thing to say to me before he closed his car door rather quickly.    <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine my surprise as I heard him say, \u201cDon\u2019t write any dumb stories.\u201d  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I stood by the car in shock. What kind of advice is that? Grandpa and I started laughing. Deano continued to laugh. He was ready for the car to pull away but seemed pleased he\u2019d made us laugh one more time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I gave him the benefit of the doubt. In context, his words made perfect sense. He knew his grandmother was going back into the house to write. She would have some quiet time, and he was telling her to write well. Certainly he had nothing but sweet intentions when he left me with those words.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

After our goodbyes, I would be going back into the house where a black-and-white photo from my parents\u2019 collection was waiting for me on my desk. It\u2019s a picture of 12 men in work clothes. Looks like a scene from the 1930s. Six of the men have lunch pails in their hands. On the back of the photo is the word \u201cKimpel,\u201d which makes me think each man had received his own copy.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The fifth gentleman from the left may be my dad\u2019s father \u2013 Edward Kimpel. He has a hat on, but we can see his strong jaw line and slender face. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grandpa lived in Hicksville, Ohio, and worked for the Work Projects Administration (WPA) which was created by President Franklin D. Roosevelt in 1935. It was part of his New Deal plan to lift the country out of the Great Depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The WPA provided jobs and income for millions of Americans. At its height in late 1938, more than 3.3 million Americans worked for the WPA.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The men built new schools, hospitals, airfields, and bridges. They laid miles of storm drains and sewer lines. They paved thousands of miles of roads and planted millions of trees. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Until I became a writer, I had not paid much attention to the word \u201cmemoir.\u201d I knew it was a story about a particular time in a person\u2019s life. According to the dictionary, it\u2019s \u201ca nonfiction narrative writing based on the author\u2019s personal memories.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below the definition of memoir is the word \u201cmemoirist\u201d \u2013 the author of a memoir.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My mother was a memoirist, but I doubt she was familiar with the word. I looked in her dictionary, and \u201cmemoirist\u201d is not to be found.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mom\u2019s newspaper column was a place she could share the stories she\u2019d written about those in the community. She wrote about the sad times people had encountered, but for the most part she focused on the good times. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This made me think about Deano\u2019s comment. I decided we\u2019re brilliant when we\u2019re children. We\u2019re supposed to focus on the good stuff which means fun is being scheduled into our day. We want our grandparents to play on the floor with us and crawl through living room forts with roofs made out of heavy quilts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My Grandma Imm saved a stationery box full of letters she\u2019d received in the early 1900s. The signatures at the bottom of the letters made me wonder what her friends and family looked like. Her family reunion photos aren\u2019t labeled with the names of those who took time out for a snapshot. Certainly some of her aunts and uncles are in those pictures. I\u2019ve read their names. Now I\u2019d simply like to know who is in the photos.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Publishing the picture of the 12 workers is my way of being intentional in my search for the story that belongs to the photo. Possibly there is a baby-boomer out there who owns this photo, knows the names of the men in the photo, and will add contacting me to their to-do list. I will then add it to my list of good stories to write.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marlene Oxender is a writer, speaker, and author. She writes about growing up in the small town of Edgerton, her ten siblings, the memorabilia in her parents\u2019 estate, and her late younger brother, Stevie Kimpel, who was born with Down syndrome. Her three published books, Picket Fences, Stevie and Grandma, You Already Am Old, are available on Amazon. Marlene can be reached at mpoxender@gmail.com<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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