By: Dr. James Bachman<\/b><\/p>\n
Dear Parson,<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
My son always wants to argue with me. How can I stop that?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
Arguing, contentions and strife are sin. \u201cThe beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.\u201d (Proverbs 17:14) \u201cLet nothing be done through strife or vainglory: but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.\u201d (Philippians 2:3) So \u2013 we made a rule in our home: Arguing is not allowed!<\/p>\n
It takes at least two to argue. Decide you will not be one of them. Pride is the root cause. \u201cOnly by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.\u201d (Proverbs 13:10) So stay humble and in control \u2013 \u201cIt is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling.\u201d (Proverbs 20:3) Anger only stirs up more strife. \u201cAn angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.\u201d (Proverbs 29:22) \u201cFathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.\u201d (Colossians 3:21) \u201cA soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.\u201d (Proverbs 15:1)<\/p>\n
It should go like this: \u201cSon, I need your input.\u201d \u2013 \u201cHe that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.\u201d (Proverbs 18:13) \u201cYou may share everything you want if you do so in a respectful manner, but when you are done, you are done, unless I ask more questions.\u201d Then let him share without interruption. When he is finished, thank him and tell him after further checking and prayerful consideration you will let him know of your decision.<\/p>\n
If he continues to be argumentative, you either walk away or send him out of your presence. \u201cCast out the scorner, and contention shall go out; yea, strife and reproach shall cease.\u201d (Proverbs 22:10)<\/p>\n
If it is not a matter of right or wrong and of no real significance, flip a coin. \u201cThe lot causeth contention to cease, and parteth between the mighty.\u201d (Proverbs 18:18)<\/p>\n
Send questions and comments to: jamesbachman@juno.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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